The life changing magic of Soul Call Cards

Since early last year I've been developing what I think is reasonable to call, a love affair. It's been a slow burn kind of love, so slow, that at first I mistakenly thought it may be just a simple case of curiosity.

It began in January 2016 when I discovered Amy Oscar's 'Soul Call Cards'. I highly value Amy's 'Soul Caller' work and for many years, I've enjoyed working with her. Amy has supported me to develop my ability to listen to my soul's calls. When Amy created the Soul Call cards, I knew I needed to have them. 

Since them I've completed the Soul Call Card Certification program and my relationship with the cards has grown stronger. I have so much appreciation for them and their incredible power to shine a light on our experiences, in a way which brings greater love, clarity and compassion to our lives. 

The Soul Call Cards are a means of connecting to the depths of who you really are and seeing the truth of situations beyond your conscious minds limited ideas and perspectives. 

On many occasions I have personally experienced the incredible clarity and peace, that comes with having a reading. Others who have had readings with me have loved the experience; and walked away feeling lighter and brighter. Not only have they felt great at the end of the reading, they've reported ongoing benefits of being able to offer themselves compassion and to see clearly. They've shared that the reading allowed them to take their next steps without the worry that was previously bothering them. All this after just a 45-60 minute session!


'There was so much mystery within the reading that turned into crystal clear clarity by the end. I woke up this morning feeling much more confident and on track!' - Laura

'I just can't find the words for how amazingly blissed out I feel each time I see Sarah.' - Jacqui

Would you love to get clarity about what your Soul desires to know, to have or to be? Would you like to understand why things are playing out the way they are at this time? Perhaps you're curious about what's emerging in your consciousness right now? 

A Soul Call Card reading is the perfect answer to any of those questions.

To celebrate the launch of Soul Call Card Readings, there's a special launch price of $45 for a 45 minute reading for the month of May 2017. 

Want to know more? Check out the Clarity page.

Booking is easy, click on a time below that suits and follow the prompts.
 

Please note, I have closed my private practice and am no longer seeing clients for counselling. This difficult decision was based on a desire to create some space in my life and see where life took me. This has led me to offering Soul Call Card readings which is now an option if you would like to have a session with me. 

Psychological Care following a traumatic experience

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Following the tragedy that occurred on the streets of Melbourne on Friday I have been saddened and shocked. 

I know that there are many people who have been directly affected by Fridays events. The ripple effects will have spread far and wide. If you are feeling the psychological effects of this particular event, or another traumatic experience, then this article is for you. 

This article will help you to take care of yourself and your loved ones following a shocking or traumatic incident. It's important to be mindful that events such as these can be a trigger for some, even if they were not directly involved. If you or someone you know are feeling triggered or have noticed a significant change in mental/emotional health, please follow up with a healthcare professional. 

It's essential to be able to de-brief after a traumatic incident in which your life or the life of someone you love has been threatened (or if you have witnessed this). Find a counsellor/pscyhologist/mental health social worker who specialises in trauma; they will be an important part of your recovery in the days, weeks and months following the incident. 

Here's a helpful Trauma Recovery web-site that provides a model for trauma recovery, it includes an overview of phases of recovery and the important elements that support healing. It also provides useful information for families and friends supporting someone who has experienced trauma.

Whilst a traumatic experience does not mean you will develop PTSD, it can lead to the development of PTSD. Seeking support for your mental health, as soon as possible, can reduce the likelihood of the development of longer term mental health issues.

There are many emotional and psychological changes which can occur following a shocking or traumatic experience. These are normal reactions to an abnormal event and include: shock, denial, disbelief, confusion, anger, irritability, sadness, feeling disconnected or numb. Physical signs and symptoms include fatigue, racing heartbeat, insomnia and aches and pains. If you're experiencing any of these, it is useful to be able to recognise them as normal. Even though they are normal responses, remember that they are occuring due to an abnormal event- it's worthwhile seeking professional support as soon as possible. 

 5 important steps to take following a traumatic or shocking experience:

1. Find a professional to speak to. You may wish to see your GP initially to seek a referral before you see a counsellor. If you have a GP who you have a good relationship with then visiting them is an excellent first step. 

2. Find a therapist/counsellor/psychologist/mental health social worker who has expertise in the field of trauma. (A google search will help and I have listed a few therapists whose web-sites say they have expertise in trauma below)

3. Take good care of yourself in the coming days and weeks, be gentle with yourself and ask for help from trusted friends and family.

4. At this time it is important to reach out, to talk to people you can trust and ask for support. If you notice yourself wanting to withdraw, reach out and seek professional support- there are 24 hour services available via phone.

5. Know the signs and symptoms of shock and trauma- click this link for information about normal responses to shocking and/or traumatic experiences. 

Some suggestions for support & information following a traumatic experience are:

Phoenix Australia Resources for Post Traumatic Health

Psychology Melbourne for Counselling

Donna Zander Counselling- Specialising in Trauma for children & adults

Moonyah Counselling Melbourne

Somatic Pyschotherapy Australia list of therapists in Victoria

Beyond Blue- Information about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Emotional Freedom Technique Video to tap into feelings of Strength & Hope

Guide for coping with emotional and psychological trauma

You can also do your own search and find lots more ideas for help- this list is a good starting point.

For urgent support, call Lifeline on 13 11 14 for confidential 24/7 counselling and referrals.

Witnesses and victims of the Bourke Street incident requiring support can also call the Victim's Support Helpline on 1800 819 817.

Disclaimer: I have not personally had experience with the links I have provided above. I am not endorsing these organisations/approaches, rather I have listed them as suggestions for your own exploration. Please decide based on your own research and what feels right for you.

The stories we weave

Lily Brett

Lily Brett

I like to think about the stories we weave as human beings, I like hearing other peoples stories and reading stories and creating them. A testament to my love of all things narrative is when I first discovered a thing called 'narrative therapy', in my days as a Social Work student. I was excited that there was a therapy called 'narrative' and instantly decided I would like it. 

I always loved writing as a child and have fond memories of creating books in the classroom and 'novels' in my bedroom. I wrote 'novels' on my Mum's hand-me-down typewriter, enjoying the loud clacking of the keys as I typed. It's funny to think now of how disappointing it was to make a mistake- because I had to manually go back and fix it, or start again. Wow, how times have changed!

I have stories on my mind, because today I came across an incredible one. I sat down and turned the TV on, planning to watch some of the Australian Open. Instead of tennis, I found myself watching the very beginning of One plus One, a program on the ABC. I don't think I've ever watched it before, but as I sat and watched I fell in love with Lily Brett (the interviewee) and her story.

She shared her jewish parents history, of surviving the death camps of Germany, their marriage surviving 6 long years of war and genocide and eventually, becoming seperated in a death camp. Lily shared what it was like to move to Australia as a toddler, and to live a life sensing that she didn't really 'belong'. She spoke of living with parents who had endured hell and the influence it had on her life. She also shared her experience of becoming a journalist in the 60s and interviewing the big names of Rock'n Roll.

She comes across as gentle, reflective, speaking eloquently and weaving an incredible narrative. I found her delightful and moving to watch. 

As someone with a love of learning about how humans thrive, survive suffering and trauma and the elements which make for a whole-hearted and enriching life, it was a gift to be able to learn through the stories shared by Lily Brett. I highly recommend watching this interview!

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More beautiful for having been broken

 

Kintsugi  is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. 

The Japanese have created a word that describes both art and a philosophy for life. Kintsugi is the art of taking a broken piece of pottery and repairing it through the use of gold glue. The finished product is a once broken piece resurrected and made more beautiful through repair. Kintsugi reminds us that breakage and repair is a valuable part of our histories and is not something to be ashamed of, to forget or to hide. 

'Artists experiment with the ancient technique of Kintsugi as a means of analyzing the idea of loss, synthesis, and improvement through destruction and repair or rebirth.' Wikipedia.

I recall times in which I have felt broken, completely devastated with a deeply felt sense that I would be unable to recover the person I once was.

In these moments I was right, I would never ever be the same again. The experiences that led me to feel broken changed me. In the moments I felt most broken, my heart heavy with pain, I was confused and unsure of how repair could ever be possible. In these difficult moments and the days and months that followed, I quite reasonably doubted that I would ever mend.

I feared that I had lost myself for good, well at least the version of me I had known up until that time. Upon reflection I can see that despite feeling broken, I didn't lose any part of my true self. What was lost in those difficult times was the ability to connect with a solid sense of myself; tough times had fractured how I perceived life....and myself. 

Such is the power of crisis that it can turn your world upside down; the inner and outer aspects of our lives can become confused. Just like I have seen many others do, I internalised some of the chaos that was occurring in my outer world. This only served to enhance the murkiness and confusion inside my mind. My perception became discoloured through the filter of mistruths- some I had long believed of myself and some I allowed in from the outer.

The pain of believing those lies continued to make repair impossible; the pain drove me to find another way, something closer to the truth.

In order to repair my broken sense of self, I had to discover new beliefs & ditch the crappy ones. I became much more selective about how I chose my personal 'truths', I was clear that I wanted them to be life enhancing (rather than soul destroying). These 'truths' became my golden glue, filling the gaps to make me whole and strong again.

I have mended, but I will never be the same person I was before my experiences of 'broken'. This is a blessing, because who I am, is exactly who I need to be now. 

With the gold for glue I feel stronger than ever, I also know that if I ever feel broken or cracked again, I have Kintsugi. Kintsugi provides us hope and an opportunity to discover a new version of wholeness which honours our complex real-life human histories.

I know now, I am more beautiful for having been broken.

I would love to hear your thoughts & experiences with brokenness & wholeness and the journey in between, please share your thoughts in the comments section!

Do you suffer from Chronic Disappointment Syndrome?

Have you ever noticed that the internet is overflowing with shiny happy people? I have. I look around and I see a lot of success, happiness, attractiveness, incredible fashion & design and really smart words. It's kinda the opposite of the evening news, which is full of doom and gloom. 

I don't watch the news, but I do spend a fair bit of time online, there's so much to explore! Unfortunately, I inevitably end up getting sucked into the land of Facebook despite better intentions. Have you noticed that Facebook has an incredible ability to suck you in? It's a place unlike any other that's filled with cleverly disguised rabbit holes. We can lose ourselves down these holes without any awareness that we've slipped and for longer periods of time than any of us wish to admit. 

I'm going to be honest here, and maybe you saw this coming...I've got a beef with the contents of the internet. There's sooo much visible success, fame, sexiness and nondescript razzle dazzle on every type of social media platform and the web in general. Here comes my beef, all of the razzle dazzle is top notch high octane fuel for comparison, perfectionism and life dissatisfaction. 

I recently heard perfectionism described as 'chronic disappointment syndrome'; well ain't that the truth. We can fool ourselves into believing that perfectionism is just a synonym for 'conscientious high achiever', but let's do honesty (it's a theme today). Perfectionism is an absolute pain in the ass soul sucking little devil. 

Someone recently asked me 'so how do you help someone with perfectionism?'. Now that's an interesting question, however I don't have a simple one line answer for it. If you're still reading, I'll bet you know a little bit about 'chronic disappointment syndrome'. I'm going to share one of the most important keys to healing non-life-enhancing perfectionism (that'd be all perfectionism if you ask me, but choose your own adventure!) 

The number 1 factor in how effectively you will move beyond doing perfectionism is your commitment to change. 

Time and time again I have observed that our commitment to doing things differently, is the most predictive factor of how likely we are to achieve lasting change (in any aspect of our lives).

Making a fundamental change in how you see yourself will be critical to your success. Giving up perfectionism is not for the faint hearted. I know you're a hard worker by nature, it may feel like letting go of perfectionism would be a disaster, perhaps akin to giving up. 

The question is, despite this, are you willing to work hard in a very different direction? Are you willing to work towards feeling calm, awesome and successful? If so, congratulations, you're right on track. 

Please comment & share your own experiences and thoughts, I love to hear from you!