Have you ever noticed that the internet is overflowing with shiny happy people? I have. I look around and I see a lot of success, happiness, attractiveness, incredible fashion & design and really smart words. It's kinda the opposite of the evening news, which is full of doom and gloom.
I don't watch the news, but I do spend a fair bit of time online, there's so much to explore! Unfortunately, I inevitably end up getting sucked into the land of Facebook despite better intentions. Have you noticed that Facebook has an incredible ability to suck you in? It's a place unlike any other that's filled with cleverly disguised rabbit holes. We can lose ourselves down these holes without any awareness that we've slipped and for longer periods of time than any of us wish to admit.
I'm going to be honest here, and maybe you saw this coming...I've got a beef with the contents of the internet. There's sooo much visible success, fame, sexiness and nondescript razzle dazzle on every type of social media platform and the web in general. Here comes my beef, all of the razzle dazzle is top notch high octane fuel for comparison, perfectionism and life dissatisfaction.
I recently heard perfectionism described as 'chronic disappointment syndrome'; well ain't that the truth. We can fool ourselves into believing that perfectionism is just a synonym for 'conscientious high achiever', but let's do honesty (it's a theme today). Perfectionism is an absolute pain in the ass soul sucking little devil.
Someone recently asked me 'so how do you help someone with perfectionism?'. Now that's an interesting question, however I don't have a simple one line answer for it. If you're still reading, I'll bet you know a little bit about 'chronic disappointment syndrome'. I'm going to share one of the most important keys to healing non-life-enhancing perfectionism (that'd be all perfectionism if you ask me, but choose your own adventure!)
The number 1 factor in how effectively you will move beyond doing perfectionism is your commitment to change.
Time and time again I have observed that our commitment to doing things differently, is the most predictive factor of how likely we are to achieve lasting change (in any aspect of our lives).
Making a fundamental change in how you see yourself will be critical to your success. Giving up perfectionism is not for the faint hearted. I know you're a hard worker by nature, it may feel like letting go of perfectionism would be a disaster, perhaps akin to giving up.
The question is, despite this, are you willing to work hard in a very different direction? Are you willing to work towards feeling calm, awesome and successful? If so, congratulations, you're right on track.
Please comment & share your own experiences and thoughts, I love to hear from you!